Category Archives: Dating

What I’ve Noticed About Young Dudes

I cancelled Tinder. If you see me on there, it’s a mistake.  Nothing personal. I wish I had swiped right on every man’s (or couple’s) profile before I bailed.  One gesture of love on a device made to reject. Tinder is broken.  … Continue reading

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Not A Samantha Jones Type

I am single. I tell you this because as a woman in her 40s (…what?! She’s in her 40s?! She looks GREAT…) I am legally required to per The Relationship Status Transparency Act of 1988 (inspired by the Nora Ephron … Continue reading

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How To Spot Red Flags On Bumble

Welcome to Bumble! So you bit the bullet and decided to join the throngs of humans on Bumble. We hope you enjoy our technology and meet your dream partner. However, we understand that not all of our users might be … Continue reading

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“Chill Out…Who Said I Was Into Him?” – A Rebuttal Dating Book

“Hey, Ladies! Are you struggling with dating relationships? Feeling confused or sad?  Willing to do anything? Even read a dating book?  Are you ready to accept that YOU’RE the problem?  Are you ready to see that all your expectations of … Continue reading

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Always Ask A Man…

I love to read books about dating. Not so much for advice, but because of what they say about how women today think and feel.  Most dating books are written with a berating tone and a crusade-like point of view … Continue reading

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Some Advice For Guys On OKCupid…

Whatever I re-wrote on my OKCupid profile must translate to “Contact me if you’re unemployed and ‘really want to direct.’” First of all, never tell a woman that you’re unemployed. The correct term is “contractor.” Secondly, barring that you’re Ben … Continue reading

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NotOKCupid

“It was really nice to meet you, too,” I say. I open my arms wide.  I think I’m communicating the universal sign for ‘Hug.’  I’m a Hugger. I lean in for a Long Distance Hug (head and arm as far … Continue reading

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Truth (Or Lack Thereof) In Comedy

I take a great deal of poetic license in my stand up.  As a comic I believe that my words and actions must (attempt) to service the God(s) of Comedy (in my case, a big, black woman named Rochelle).  So, if I say something … Continue reading

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Dunking My Cell Phone In A Vat Of Disinfectant Bleach

A few weeks ago I was peforming stand up at the Unurban when a cute guy showed up mid-way through my show. “That guy is so hot! You gotta make your move!” said Gay Comic Friend. I chickened out.  Of course. But … Continue reading

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Step Away From The Hug

Sometimes when I’m dating someone and I hug them good-bye, my arms get locked in position and refuse to disengage. “I have to go.” “I know, but I can’t help it. There’s no release button.” Eventually, I have to manually … Continue reading

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As part of a personal ongoing sociology study, coupled with a perverse desire to disprove the theory that Los Angeles is a terrible (or “the worst”) dating scene in the country (according to 80% of friends polled), I have kept … Continue reading

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