Category Archives: Love

Kiss The Frog(s)

I’ve talked to my therapist at length about my dating history. “You have to kiss a lot of frogs,” she said at the end of one session. Thanks for telling me.  BECAUSE ALL THIS TIME I’VE BEEN SLEEPING WITH THEM. … Continue reading

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A Valentine’s Day Story

The message I got growing up about romantic love was if you want a man to love you be as Asian-woman-like as possible.  (At least the way Asian women are portrayed in the media…docile, submissive, flashing the occasional coy smile, … Continue reading

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Warning From Land of The Middle Aged Single

“Someday, Chica, you’re going to be 52 and single…,” said Jewish American Salsera to me last night. She’s been regaling me for the last few years for not trying harder to find a husband. Actually, come to think of it, … Continue reading

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The Love That Dare Not Be Spoken

My sister gave me “The Muppet Show” Season 1 DVD for Christmas (thank you!) and after watching it for a few dozen hours I have come to the awareness that I have a crush on Fozzie Bear. I didn’t realize … Continue reading

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Puppy Love

Spending another fabulous night babysitting boys who give me more love than any man I’ve ever “known.” Sigh. If only I could be seven or ten again. Those were really the golden years of pure, unadulterated love between me and … Continue reading

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Welcome to LA: Warning! Choose Your Cult Carefully

There are many cults in Los Angeles. Churches, groups, meetings, expensive self-improvement classes, acting classes, 12-step meetings, and places to shop. You may think you’re buying a cup of coffee or engaging in the latest styles, but you’re really on … Continue reading

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Lena Horne

I saw this acting guru speak last week who coaches Leonardo DiCaprio and Hilary Swank. I furiously took notes on everything he said as if her were the second coming (close enough). I especially liked how he said actors should … Continue reading

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I Don’t Want to Fail at Love Anymore

So much as I claim to be a victim, I know that I am comfortable in the part. The point is, I don’t want to break up with my boyfriend, I don’t want to play the victim anymore, and I … Continue reading

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Guacamole Recipe

4 avocados (amazingly enough)3 limes1/2 onion (finely chopped)2 cloves garlic (finely chopped)two tomatoes (finely chopped)saltpepperlotta love (that’s the kicker)

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He’s So Nice

My boyfriend is so nice. Sometimes I’m a little distrusting of his niceness because I’ve been wired to sniff out motives like a hound. And “nice for the sake of niceness” is a motive far under my radar. My therapist … Continue reading

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Soul Mates

A few years ago, I was wondering why two healthy individuals would bother to enmesh themselves into creepy coupledom. I studied all the nauseating couples at Pottery Barn and the Farmer’s Market with suspicion and disdain. I scrutinized the men … Continue reading

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