Politics vs. Personality in Intimate Relationships
In order to distract myself from the onslaught of flu symptoms in 90 degree weather, I had a long conversation with my co-worker Marco about the importance of like-minded political views vs. personality in intimate relationships. I have in the past (for some reason) attracted alpha males with radically different political views than my own, and while it certainly brought out some of my own less than attractive chararasterics of being unable to have fair, open-minded discussions, I can’t really say that it’s the thing that drove any of my relationships apart.
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I suppose my unwillingness to value political like-mindedness is impacted by the fact that I have known some real giant A-holes (men and women) whose political beliefs I totally agree with 100%. And while I wouldn’t mind watching them work their issues out in screaming matches on Talking Heads Shows, I wouldn’t want to live with them. I think Americans take politics to an insanely personal degree and (as all the screaming matches on Talking Heads Shows attest to), it makes it scary to espouse your beliefs, unless you’re swiming in the mainstream or are some kind of psychotic zealot. I think in the end what really makes people scared of disagreeing is the fear that they won’t be respected, acknowledged, or even heard. Which brings me to the real important element in any relationship which is respect and understanding. And if life has taught me something it has taught me that some personalities just can’t do things like look outside of their own minds…not to judge these people. We can’t all be Jesus or Buddha or Nelson or Oprah, but I’m talking about every day interactions.
Just for today, I understanding in relationships over political differences.