Email From Mom
A lot going on in the world right now. War. Unemployment. Earthquakes. Poverty. Gas Prices. And then there’s the email my mom wrote me about dating:
(Note: I got permission to post the following. I love my mom and the fact that she loves me enough to write this email.)
At 4:00 am this morning I was thinking about on-line dating….
4:00 AM! Talk about pressure! Not only am I keeping her from becoming a grandmother, but now I’m causing her to lose sleep.
Have you seen the movie Harold and Maude? I just saw it again a few months ago – it’s great. And Ruth Gordon is so wonderful. Check it out and view it again.
You mean that movie about an 80-year-old woman and 16-year-old boy who fall in love? Mom, do you think I’m as hard-up as an 80-year-old woman?
When you communicate with the potential dates I hope you’re not being too negative. I think it is alright to state negative past experiences, or thoughts, but they should be (on the dating scene) seen as “big secrets” and only narrated to close and trusted friends, not on first or second dates.
I know I have been oversharing since before Facebook made it cool, but even I know when to drop the “big secrets” bomb. I do believe, though, that my mom and I have different definitions of “big secrets.” For instance, “I’ve been to therapy” isn’t a “big secret” to me.
People love to talk about themselves, especially men…
Here we go…
…and if you encourage them to talk about themselves they’ll be happy with you. Then you can say, “Wow, that sounds interesting!” “How did you do that?” Etc…..
My mom should be writing for this.
It’s hard to believe that she once used to subscribe to Ms. Magazine. In the 5th grade, my mom bought me a shirt that said, “A woman needs a man, like a fish needs a bicycle.” I thought she was serious.
Just for today, I love my Mom.